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July 31, 2006 at 8:03 pm #534821
DJ ValParticipantHi there lovely people. I would like to know if anyone here has ever been bullied at work by thier immediate boss. If so what is the best way to approach this awful dilemma.
If the person that is being bullied is a kind, generous, emmotional person, who does nothing but go out of thier way to help others, would you say that it is thier own fault that they are being bullied just because they are not strong enough to stand up to the bully? What if the person being bullied believes that standing up to the bully may reflect on future performance plans or risk suspension or being fired in case standing up to the bully may look more like cheek and lack of respect for thier boss.AdSense 336x280July 31, 2006 at 8:03 pm #595259
DJ ValParticipantHi there lovely people. I would like to know if anyone here has ever been bullied at work by thier immediate boss. If so what is the best way to approach this awful dilemma.
If the person that is being bullied is a kind, generous, emmotional person, who does nothing but go out of thier way to help others, would you say that it is thier own fault that they are being bullied just because they are not strong enough to stand up to the bully? What if the person being bullied believes that standing up to the bully may reflect on future performance plans or risk suspension or being fired in case standing up to the bully may look more like cheek and lack of respect for thier boss.AdSense 336x280July 31, 2006 at 9:20 pm #595268
The CutterParticipantMy advice and I have experienced something similar but different to this is to first just let it slide. Keep doing quality work and give no one a reason to critize your work. When at work be as professional as one can be. Do not let your emotions get you caught up in a bunch of drama. Act like whatever the boss is doing does not bother you.
Now this may show the boss in question that he/she can not get under your skin and they just might stop whatever it is they are doing. If this continues depending on your boss set up a personal/private meeting with them to discuss these issues. If this still continues go over their head to their boss and inform them of the problem but be careful because you must handle this very professionally. If not done properely you could come off looking bad especially if the boss in question finds out about you going over their head. They can then turn things around on you and in most cases it’s their word against yours.
Also talk with some of your fellow coworkers and see if they are having the same issues. If so it is better to have others who are in the same boat watching your back and vice versa.
You should not have to put up with any abusive boss or employer but do not give them any attitude because you just come off worse. If in the end you find that you have been wrongfully terminated and can substantiate your claims take them to court. If you win they will be responsible for the court costs( I’m not sure how the court system works in the U.K. so this is based more on U.S. legal practices) and usually if you loose the lawyer does not collect any money.
If you would like more specifics on what happened with me and how I handled it the wrong way PM me and I will give you more insight. Now that time has passed I have realized what things I did wrong in my situation and wished I had asked somebody for advice when I was having problems with a boss.
Hope this helps,
Mr. C.
AdSense 336x280July 31, 2006 at 9:48 pm #595271
DJ ValParticipantHey Cutter. Thanks for the fast reply to this topic. There are about 20 staff members in my department. More than half of them are picked on by the boss in one way or another. Hear in the UK we have what is called "performance plans", depending on what you are graded after your performance plan review, this is what your annual bonus is based on. Because of this review, everyone is too scared to stand up or even talk to this bass about being picked on incase they get downgraded. Believe me, there will be so excuse that the boss will have to warrant a downgrade.
An episode happened today whereby the boss went into mega "bully" mode in front of other members of staff and customers.
A meeting has been set up for tomorrow, as they situation is getting out of hand. The frustrating thing about the whole this is this bullying thing with the person concerned and the boss started about a month and a half ago, before that these two people had such an excellent working relationship now all of a sudden it’s turned into such an ugly situation.
The person did tell the boss today that they needed to have a meeting to sort this situation out as it is now getting out of hand. The boss asked "what situation" when the boss was told "that you keep picking on me all the time" the boss naturally denied the whole thing. The rest of the persons workmates in the department all agreed that the boss had no right to speak to them the way the boss did today. Of course the person did end up in tears which now has probably made thier situation worse as the boss has seen just how he/she can manipulate this person and how it upsets them.
I’ll send you a pm or e-mail whereby you can tell me how you unfortunately handled it the wrong way. Thanks again for the advise.
Take care
ValAdSense 336x280July 31, 2006 at 10:19 pm #595273
JuggernautParticipantI’ve not faced it as i’ve vowed off office work for as long as possible. But there should be an HR (human resources) department in your company which you can talk to. Again, i don’t know how good that would be and i’m basing this on how my mum dealt with racism in her office in the states (so things could be different uk wise)
Cutter sounds like he’d be a lot more helpful than me.
just my 2p tho.
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